Monday, September 30, 2013

AUTISM UPDATE

Because sometimes--though certainly not always--Moebius Syndrome can be associated with autism; that is, if your child has Moebius, it certainly has happened that he or she may be autistic, too.  But even if this is so, what we find is that you as parents can deal with it and your child will be able to deal with it, too.  For example, see this interesting story--did you know that a pretty famous Hollywood actress is and was autistic?  Her name:  Daryl Hannah.  Yes, you remember her--here's some of her story:

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She starred beside Tom Hanks and dated John F. Kennedy Jr. and now a one-time A-lister says she was diagnosed with autism as a youngster and doctors recommended she be institutionalized.
Daryl Hannah, 52, who starred in the 1980s blockbusters “Splash” and “Wall Street” tells People Magazine that she suffered from “debilitating shyness” as a result of her autism diagnosis.
Hannah says she “checked out” at school and rocked incessantly — something she still does today — and doctors recommended that she be medicated and institutionalized, ideas that her mother rejected.
Movies became a way to cope and at age 17, Hannah moved from her home in Chicago to Los Angeles with her eye on the silver screen.
Hiding her diagnosis from movie executives, Hannah found success in Hollywood, but never felt comfortable with fame. She refused to appear on talk shows or attend premieres “not because I was above it,” she says, “but because I was terrified.”
“I’ve never been comfortable being the center of attention,” Hannah said. “It’s always freaked me out.”
Today, Hannah leads a quieter life primarily focusing on environmental activism.
“Life is too short to stress the small things anymore,” she says.

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Friday, September 27, 2013

FRIDAY FOOTBALL PICKS!

I was only 4-11 last week.  Yeesh!
This week it's gotta be better!!

COLLEGE PICKS

Ole Miss at Alabama.  My pick:  CRIMSON TIDE.  This will be a closer game than some think; Ole Miss has got some good young players.  But the Tide are at home and have too much experience.

Oklahoma at Notre Dame.  My pick:  SOONERS.  I think these are two good teams; not two great teams.  ND benefited from Michigan State's offensive woes last week; this week they play a more complete team.

Wisconsin at Ohio State.  My pick:  BUCKEYES.  Can anyone slow down that Ohio State offense, whoever plays at QB for them?  I doubt Wisconsin can.

NFL PICKS

ATLANTA 2 over New England.  My pick:  FALCONS.  I saw some of Atlanta's game against Miami; thi i still a good Atlanta team, which has lost two tough games to two good teams on the road.  This time they'll triumph.

Baltimore 3.5 over BUFFALO.  My pick:  RAVENS.  My question has been--are the Ravens really still the Ravens?  The last two weeks convinces me they pretty much still are.

Cincinnati 4.5 over CLEVELAND.  My pick:  BENGALS.  This one makes me a bit nervous; these teams traditionally play close games.  But--the Bengals are the better team, and I think they'll show it.

Dallas 2 over San Diego.  My pick:  COWBOYS.  Again, the question is very simple--it's not, can the Cowboys win this game or that one?  They always "can."  But can they show consistency and play both at home and then the next week on the road???  But I suspect they've improved enough that here, they can.

DENVER 10.5 over Philadelphia.  My pick:  BRONCOS.  If that Philly offense lets Peyton Manning control the ball for close to 40 minutes, and they just might, then the Broncos will score a ton of points, and win this one in a laugher.

DETROIT 3 over Chicago.  My pick:  LIONS.  Again, nervous time--how much should we really believe in the Lions?  But the Bears are dinged up too, and the Lions will have Reggie Bush back.

Indianapolis 8 over JACKSONVILLE.  My pick:  COLTS.  The Colts showed last week in their win at San Fran--this is a tough team.  Jacksonville appears to be just bad.

KANSAS CITY 4.5 over NY Giants.  My pick:  CHIEFS.  Again, after 3 weeks, the question is--what do we know?  I think there are things we know--the Chiefs are good.  And it looks to be a tough year for the Giants.

Pittsburgh 1.5 over Minnesota (in London).  My pick:  STEELERS.  The Vikings will have to start Matt Cassel at QB this week due to a Christian Ponder injury.  I doubt it will fix their problems.  Really both teams appear to be messed up, but go with the Steelers here in a close one.

Seattle 3 over HOUSTON.  My pick:  SEAHAWKS.  After 3 weeks?  It appears the Seahawks are for real.

TAMPA BAY 2.5 over Arizona.  My pick:  CARDINALS.  I think Tampa Bay is confused and riven by dissension and QB troubles.

TENNESSEE 3.5 over NY Jets.  My pick:  TITANS.  Both teams are sort of pleasant surprises; but I like the Titans here--they're at home, they have a very good defense too, and Jake Locker can make things happen with his feet.

Washington 3 over OAKLAND.  My pick:  REDSKINS.  Terrelle Pryor is dinged up for Oakland.  Meanwhile RGIII says the 'Skins are close to getting things right.  Maybe they are.

NEW ORLEANS 6.5 over Miami.  My pick:  SAINTS.  Miami is a much-improved team.  BUT--have you seen how well the Saints defense is playing??  Go with Drew Brees and that newly-tough defense at home.

Thursday, September 26, 2013

FOR MOEBIUS MOMS AND DADS: THE BENEFITS OF A NAP

Another health tip of the day:  if you have a pre-school child, guess what--a nap helps promote learning.  I doubt this will surprise anyone, and obvious this isn't Moebius-Syndrome specific; a nap will benefit any young child, whether he or she has Moebius Syndrome or not.  But it's still a good reminder; read on:

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A preschooler’s nap may be an important tool for learning, a new study of 3- to 5-year-olds suggests.
Researchers tested 40 children in the morning by showing them a picture on a card, then flipping the card over and asking the child to remember its location on a grid.
The children then continued their regular program. At around 2 p.m., half the children were encouraged to nap, while the other half were given activities to keep them awake.
The researchers re-tested the children after nap time, and again the next morning. All the children participated both as nappers and non-nappers.
When children napped, they scored higher on tests of recall afterward than when they stayed awake for the same time period. Nappers also did better on tests the next day. The findings were published online in The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
“Children not only need to nap, but should be encouraged to nap,” said the senior author, Rebecca M.C. Spencer, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. “Schools are getting pressure to add curriculum and activities, but naps serve an academic function as well. A nap really supports the goals of preschool.”

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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

HEALTH TIP OF THE DAY: SOME ADVICE ON HEALTHY, EFFECTIVE, ENERGY-ENRICHING DIETING FROM...GUESS WHO?

Well, you all know what a big football fan I am, right?  So today when I found this article about diet and health tips form current NFL players, written by an agent who knows many of them very, very well, I just couldn't resist.  Once again, it's something I thought was interesting. (I've said that a lot this week. :+))  And I know many of you out there want to know how to do better, look better, feel better, have more energy...well, these guys have some ideas.  Read on:

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The clients I have/had that played eight or more years in the NFL have one thing in common: they all embraced some type of nutrition plan and/or habits that help them recover faster, have more energy, stay lean and maintain stamina throughout a season.
Years of lifting weights, numerous collisions, and pushing the body when it’s fatigued causes stress and damage that the body may or may not recover from. In my 27 years as an agent I’ve seen that the majority of my clients leave the game with broken bodies.
The good news is that players are getting smarter, have more resources and their teams are even helping with education and better meals.
Now we all know that the NFL poster child for health and longevity is TE Tony Gonzalez of the Atlanta Falcons. Tony is truly committed to a nutrition plan that he swears helps him survive as an NFL iron man.
He has a diet that is made up of 80% plant based (spinach, Kale, cucumbers, carrots and a variety of fruits) and 20% meat/fish based. Playing a position that runs a lot, endures an abundance of contact and is taxing on the body, it’s truly amazing that Tony is in his 17th season and looking more like a 27 year old than a 37 year old. For a look at Tony’s diet refer to this issue of Men’s Journal.
Here are some of the tricks and trends of what of your favorite NFL players are doing to play longer and survive the harsh toll of playing in the NFL.
Supplements
Drew uses Advocare products to assist him in the recovery process.
Many players take supplements. Drew Brees is a big user of supplements. Drew is not a big guy but he handles hits like he is. Drew is a big believer in recovery and has adopted the product line from Advocare to help him. Even though Drew is a spokesman for the company, he was using their products before the endorsement relationship evolved and materialized. It’s a company that is highly conscientious of their ingredients and made a commitment almost a decade ago to be acceptable to the highest of NFL standards. Some of their more popular products used by Drew and other players are Catalyst (a branch chain amino acid that helps prevent your muscles from breaking down), Spark (a caffeine product thoughtfully engineered with an abundance of vitamins, and Night Time Recovery (works to help speed up the recovery of damaged muscles while you sleep.
Another powerful supplement gaining momentum is fish oils. Outside of helping to reduce cholesterol they are showing signs of keeping joints such as knees, shoulders, and ankles fresh and lubricated.
Going Gluten Free
More and more NFL players are saying goodbye to gluten-based products. Several of my clients avoid gluten and they say that have noticed their digestive system works better and they have more energy. Recently retired client, guard Eric Steinbach, had some horrible stomach issues for years before he discovered he was allergic to gluten. After cutting gluten completely out of his diet he was actually able to maintain a better body fat ratio and had better control of weight. He told me that after going gluten free he could sleep better and recover faster.
When they are eating and when they aren’t
Client DT Johnny Jolly of the Packers is down to 325 pounds for the first time since his rookie year, seven years ago. Johnny is not drinking any alcohol and told me the biggest thing that has help him shed the pounds (he was about 350 in June) is that he quit eating after 7pm. He told me he sleeps better and wakes up with a ton of energy.
Eating before going to bed is really bad for your body. Jay Hoehn, a La Jolla based trainer and health guru (who works with NFL players), said to me, “not eating at least two hours or more before going to sleep is essential to your body's ability to repair itself and get essential rest. If there is food in the stomach before going to bed the body has to go to work to digest it and break it down. If it’s doing that, your body’s natural cell repair and recovery resources can’t fully be allocated to the areas that need them the most.” He also said, “that the first three hours of sleep is prime time for your body to replenish its’ muscles, brain, organs and various tissues.” Therefore, even guys with a solid nutrition plan may not be getting the full benefit if the timing of their meals and snacks are out of sync with the body’s natural clock. The Niners and other teams talk to their players about the timing of the meals and sleep patterns.
Eating a modest amount of oatmeal and fruits such as berries with a little honey in the morning will help your body burn its fuel more efficiently.
I personally have adopted some of these habits such as eating blueberries (started about 7 years ago) every morning, I cut down on gluten products about 80%, take fish oils religiously and don’t eat two hours prior to going to bed. The result for me is that I haven’t been sick in 7 seven years, I’ve lost and kept off 20 pounds, my cholesterol is down 30%, I don’t need naps, I sleep deep, and my joints feel 20 years younger. These tips aren’t just for NFL players as any one can benefit, as I did, by committing to just a few simple lifestyle changes.

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Happy eating!

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

I-JUST-THOUGHT-THIS-WAS-INTERESTING DEPT: HEALTH TIPS

And these just may come in handy--those of us who have Moebius tend to have to go to the doctor maybe a bit more frequently than do others, and naturally one thing that can happen is that doctors want to run tests on you.  But are the tests they seek always a good idea?  Maybe; but maybe not.  Read on:

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You may assume your doc is being thorough when she runs a gazillion tests, but there's a downside to being too proactive. New studies show that many people don't benefit from costly screening tests that come with pitfalls such as false positives and excessive radiation. So doctors tend to do fewer of them. Here are some tests you may be able to skip (for a full list, go to choosingwisely.org.)
Bone-density test
Aside from those who are at high risk for weak bones, women should wait until they are 65 to have their bone density measured. Younger women are unlikely to have outright osteoporosis, and while the scan may detect mild bone loss (osteopenia), the risk of a fracture is low and the drugs that may be prescribed to treat this condition carry side effects and haven't proved to be highly beneficial in these cases.
CT scan or MRI, for headaches
Most of the time a careful medical history and a neurological exam (e.g., measuring reflexes) can diagnose the problem. And CT scans involve a hefty dose of radiation.
EKG or exercise stress test
Hooking up to an electrocardiogram (EKG) and/or taking an exercise stress test makes sense if you have symptoms of heart disease or are at high risk, but those at low risk who are just looking for reassurance may get inaccurate results that can lead to further testing and overtreatment with drugs.
Imaging for lower-back pain
You don't want to skip an X-ray, CT scan or MRI if there are signs of a severe problem (a history of cancer, fever or pain that lasts several weeks), but lower-back pain often gets better in about a month.
PET/CT for cancer screening in healthy people
The likelihood of finding cancer in healthy adults using these screening methods is extremely low, according to the Society of Nuclear Medicine and Molecular Imaging.

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Monday, September 23, 2013

I-JUST-THOUGHT-THIS-WAS-INTERESTING DEPT

Do you tend to live and work in an environment that is almost always neat and tidy?  Or, if you have, say, an office, does it tend to messy and unkempt?  Either one of those things say something about you.  But what they say may surprise you.  Read on:

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This article appeared in the Sunday, Sept. 22 issue of The New York Times Magazine.
For some time, psychologists and other researchers have been studying how personality traits affect health and health-related choices. Not surprisingly, they have found that people blessed with innate conscientiousness, meaning that they are organized and predictable, typically eat better and live longer than people who are disorderly. They also tend to have immaculate offices.
What has been less clear is whether neat environments can produce good habits even in those who aren’t necessarily innately conscientious. To find out, researchers at the University of Minnesota conducted a series of experiments, the results of which were published online last month in Psychological Science. In the first experiment, they randomly assigned a group of college-age students to spend time in adjacent office spaces, one of which was exquisitely neat, the other wildly cluttered with papers and other work-related detritus. The students spent their time filling out questionnaires unrelated to the study. After 10 minutes, they were told they could leave and were offered an apple or a chocolate bar as they exited. Those students who sat in the orderly office were twice as likely to choose the apple than those who sat amid the mess.
A second experiment, however, found that working in chaos has its advantages, too. In this one, college students were placed in a messy or a neat office and asked to dream up new uses for Ping-Pong balls. Those in messy spaces generated ideas that were significantly more creative, according to two independent judges, than those plugging away in offices where stacks of papers and other objects were neatly aligned.
The results were something of a surprise, says Kathleen D. Vohs, a behavioral scientist at the University of Minnesota and the leader of the study. Few previous studies found much virtue in disarray. The broken-windows theory, proposed decades ago, posits that even slight disorder and neglect can encourage nonchalance, poor discipline and nihilism. Chaos begets chaos.
But in the study by Dr. Vohs, disordered offices encouraged originality and a search for novelty. In the final portion of the study, adults were given the choice of adding a health “boost” to their lunchtime smoothie that was labeled either “new” or “classic.” The volunteers in the messy space were far more likely to choose the new one; those in the tidy office generally opted for the classic version.
“Disorderly environments seem to inspire breaking free of tradition,” Dr. Vohs and her co-authors conclude in the study, “which can produce fresh insights.”
The implications of these findings are also practical. “My advice would be, if you need to think outside the box” for a future project, Dr. Vohs says, then let the clutter rise and unfetter your imagination. But if your primary goal is to eat well or to go to the gym, pick up around your office first. By doing this, the naturally messy can acquire some of the discipline of the conscientious.

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Sunday, September 22, 2013

THIS WEEK'S NFL PICKS

A little late this week, but better late than never. 
Last week I was 7-9-1...sheesh!

NFL PICKS (home team in CAPS)

Chicago 2 over PITTSBURGH.  My pick:  STEELERS.  I dunno...just a gut feeling.  Surely Big Ben and Troy Polamalu have something left, at home; and Jay Cutler does tend to make some turnovers.

DALLAS 3.5 over St. Louis.  My pick:  COWBOYS.  Both teams are competitive but both teams have issues...look for the Cowboys to use Tony Romo and the passing game to score enough points to win by a TD or so.

Green Bay 2.5 over CINCINNATI.  My pick:  PACKERS.  That Aaron Rodgers-led offense will just be a bit too much for the Bengals to overcome.

Houston 2 over BALTIMORE.  My pick:  TEXANS.  In this case, this Matt Schaub-led offense and its weapons will be a bit too much for the Ravens to overcome.

MIAMI 2 over Atlanta.  My pick: FALCONS.  I know, I know; Miami is riding high with 2 straight road wins and the Falcons are beat up.  But--Atlanta is still a proven playoff team and they still have Matt Ryan.  Don't sell them short.

MINNESOTA 6.5 over Cleveland.  My pick:  VIKINGS.  You just have to wonder about the Browns' mental state, with Trent Richardson now gone and the totally unproven Brian Hoyer starting at QB.  The Vikings have it all going their way here.

NEW ENGLAND 7 over Tampa Bay.  My pick:  BUCCANEERS.  Don't worry, I see Brady and Belichick pulling out another close won.  But that's the thing--the Bucs are capable of keeping this one close, and I don't think the Pats can have fixed all their issues in just a week.

NEW ORLEANS 7 over Arizona.  My pick:  SAINTS.  Drew Brees and the offense haven't quite gotten it going this year like they want to; my bet is they get it going today.

NY Giants 1 over CAROLINA.  My pick:  GIANTS.  Because they can't, and won't, keep turning it over 5 or 6 times per game.

NY JETS 2 over Buffalo.  My pick:  BILLS.  I like Buffalo's defense, and E.J. Manuel I believe is a bit farther along than is Geno Smith.

SAN FRANCISCO 10 over Indianapolis.  My pick:  COLTS.  Not to win, but to keep it close.  Yes, the Niners are good, but they're not an unstoppable juggernaut like some seem to believe; see last week in Seattle.

SEATTLE 19 over Jacksonville.  My pick:  JAGUARS.  Yes, of course, Seattle will win.  BUT, it's simple--when it comes to the NFL, covering that kind of point spread--19 pts--is hard.  I think Jacksonville can keep it closer than 19.

TENNESSEE 3 over San Diego.  My pick:  TITANS.  A tough call.  But remember--this is the Chargers' second straight week a long way from home.  Plus Philip Rivers burned the Eagles so badly because they chose to blitz him; Tennessee's defense is good enough that they won't have to blitz so much and give Rivers the chance to make big plays.

WASHINGTON 1 over Detroit.  My pick:  REDSKINS.  The Lions haven't won in Washington in eons.  Reggie Bush is dinged up and might not be at full strength, or worse.  The Lions' secondary is suspect.  Robert Griffin III might just get back on track.

DENVER 15 over Oakland.  My pick:  RAIDERS.  The Broncos are very good and will win this game, but 1] again, in the NFL your best bet is that 15 is too much to cover, and 2] the Raiders with Terrelle Pryor are a little better than we thought.  They can keep it closer...

Thursday, September 19, 2013

BULLETIN TO MOEBIUS MOMS AND DADS: WHY YOU AND YOUR CHILD SHOULD SHARE

And the reason is:  in schools (for example) research is showing that the more other kids are exposed to children with physical differences and/or special needs, the more accepting of them they are and the better their attitudes are.  Read on:

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Children who are exposed to people with disabilities — either directly or indirectly — have more positive attitudes about those with special needs, researchers say.
In a survey of 1,520 kids ages 7 to 16, researchers found that increased familiarity with those who have disabilities led to less anxiety and better attitudes.
“We have known for some time that integrating children with disabilities into the regular classroom can improve attitudes. What we have established here is just how much of a difference a greater presence in day-to-day life makes,” said Megan MacMillan of the University of Exeter Medical School in England who presented the findings Thursday at the British Psychological Society’s annual conference.
To assess their attitudes, the children were surveyed about their feelings and level of contact with people with disabilities.
Even in cases where kids did not have direct contact with a person with a disability, but observed or heard about a friend’s interaction with such an individual, researchers found there were benefits, with children showing reduced anxiety about those with disabilities and increased empathy.
MacMillan said the findings indicate that promoting further interaction between typically developing children and those with special needs could help reduce discrimination.
“Improving attitudes can have long-lasting effects and can help children with disabilities to succeed,” MacMillan said.

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"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life.  I can choose to sin in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have--life itself."--Walter Anderson 

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

FROM THE I-JUST-THOUGHT-THIS-WAS-INTERESTING...AND IMPORTANT DEPT

That is--sometimes I post articles here mainly because they are interesting and thought-provoking (though not necessarily directly related to Moebius).  Here, I'm posting an article that, yes, I think is interesting and thought-provoking...but I think it also does have a Moebius Syndrome tie-in.  The piece has to do with long-distance relationships; can they work?  And the fact is that it is not uncommon for adults with Moebius to pursue long-distance relationships.  Maybe you meet another person with Moebius online; or maybe you meet at a conference.  If both of you have Moebius Syndrome, that is something major to have in common.  It can lead to that person becoming a significant other.  But maybe you don't live in the same state.  What then?

Well, interestingly...if that ever happens to you, this article suggests that, yep--it can work.  Don't assume that it cannot.  Read on:

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The end of summer doesn't just mean it's time to buckle down at work or head back to school. For many college students, autumn also signals a disruption in summertime loving, in other words, a return to the dreaded long-distance relationship.
But are these types of relationships really so hard? Or, as a recent study suggests, does absence truly make the heart grow fonder?
According to some estimates, up to 75% of college students have engaged in a long-distance relationship at some point, and roughly 25% to 50% of them are currently in one. But long-distance relationships aren't just for college kids; surveys show that about 3 million American adult couples live apart, too.
Previous research has done little to make people believe these situations can work. In fact, one 2010 study suggested successful romances require regular face-to-face contact to succeed.
That's why this latest study, published in the June 2013 issue of the Journal of Communication, is so heartening. Researchers at Cornell University asked 63 couples in long distance and in geographically close relationships to keep track of how often they interacted with their partners and which type of media (phone calls, texting, video chat, etc.) they used. The couples also kept diaries of what information they shared with their partners and how close they felt after interacting with them through these high-tech tools.
After a week, the researchers interviewed the participants and asked them about their satisfaction with the relationship.
His marriage proposal takes to the skies
Man gets airport flash mob surprise
Perhaps not surprisingly, the long-distance couples contacted each other most often, about three to four times a day. But the researchers also found that this frequent contact may have forged stronger bonds between the partners.
Long-distance couples felt more intimate with each other than did couples who saw each other all the time, possibly because people in long-distance relationships willingly shared their feelings without being coaxed. They also felt more accepting of their partners' behaviors and felt like they were getting closer instead of just sharing information.
As a result, long-distance couples said they felt more committed to each other, even though 30% of them only got to see each other in person one to three times a month.
It makes sense: Just as online relationships and Facebook flirtations allow us to idealize strangers because we don't have to live with all of their quirks, long-distance relationships may help keep the romantic bloom on the rose a little longer.
"In some ways, long-distance relationships are a bit easier, at least for desire, perceived satisfaction, and not having to deal with day-to-day life," explains Kristen P. Mark, director of the Sexual Health Promotion Lab at the University of Kentucky. "Sure, you miss your partner and ache to see them again, but that ache is exactly what fuels the desire and passion in the relationship. Missing out on the mundane allows for your relationship to flourish on the ups of life without having to worry about paying the bills, what to cook for dinner or getting the kids up and out the door in the morning."
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On the other hand, technology can make it easy to present your partner with only a surface façade and mask your true feelings. People in long-distance relationships would do well to be as honest as possible with their partners, and themselves, to ensure that their romance has the depth to last when they become geographically closer.
Concerns aside, I believe that long-distance relationships may actually offer a valuable lesson for the rest of us.
"Putting some 'distance' in your relationship can be helpful, even if you aren't in a long-distance relationship," Mark says. "Using space apart to fuel sexual desire or reignite spark is a useful strategy when daily routine becomes monotonous. It allows for you to miss one another and realize why you've got each other in your life in the first place."
So whether your boyfriend is enrolled in college halfway across the country or your wife is simply leaving for a week-long work trip, don't fret: The time apart may make your relationship stronger than ever.

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Tuesday, September 17, 2013

ON SHYNESS

Shyness is a topic that comes up in connection with Moebius Syndrome all the time.  There are adults with Moebius Syndrome who have been shy all their lives.  There are children with Moebius who are shy.  There are parents of children with Moebius who WORRY about the fact that their child is shy.

So what's the deal with this?  What should be done about it--if anything?  Don't we need to understand it more?  Precisely--because in fact, did you know that about half of ALL children in America would classify themselves as "shy"?  I don't mean half of all kids or young people with Moebius; I mean half of all kids, period.  Here's an interesting piece that appeared in today's issue of the NY Times on shyness--maybe it will give you some more insight into it all:

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Toward the end of the summer, I was seeing a middle-school girl for a physical. The notes from a clinic visit last spring said she was a good student but didn’t talk enough in class. So I asked her: Is this still a problem for you?
I’m shy, she said. I’m just shy.
Should I have turned to her mother and suggested — a counselor? An academic evaluation? Should I have probed further? How do you feel in school, do you have some friends, is anybody bullying you?
Or should I have said: Lots of people are shy. It’s one of the healthy, normal styles of being human.
All of these responses, together, would have been correct. A child who is being bullied or bothered may be anxious about drawing attention to herself; a child who doesn’t ever talk in class may be holding back because some learning problem is getting in the way, making her self-conscious. So you do need to listen — especially to a child who talks less rather than more — and find ways to ask questions. Are you happy, anxious, afraid?
But shyness is also part of the great and glorious range of the human normal. Two years ago, Kathleen Merikangas, a senior investigator at the National Institute of Mental Health, and her colleagues published a study of 10,000 older children, ranging from 13 to 18 years old. “We found that about half of kids in America describe themselves as shy,” she told me.
Common though it may be, our schools — and our broader culture — do not always celebrate the reserved and retiring. “Children who are shy, who don’t raise their hand, who don’t talk in class, are really penalized in this society,” Dr. Merikangas said.
I have heard it said that temperament was invented by the first parent to have a second child — that’s when parents realize that children come wired with many of the determinants of disposition and personality. What worked with Baby 1 doesn’t necessarily work with Baby 2. The analysis of temperament has been a topic of discussion in pediatrics and psychology for decades.
“Temperament is the largely inborn set of behaviors that are the style with which a person functions, not to be confused with their motivation or their developmental status and abilities,” said Dr. William B. Carey, a clinical professor of pediatrics at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia and the author of “Understanding Your Child’s Temperament.”
Shyness reflects a child’s place on the temperamental continuum, the part of it that involves dealing with new and unfamiliar circumstances. And starting a new school year may be hard on those who find new situations more difficult and more full of anxiety. What most children need is time to settle in, support from parents and teachers, and sometimes help making connections and participating in class.
If a child is not more comfortable after a month or so, parents should look at whether more help is needed, said Anne Marie Albano, director of the Columbia University Clinic for Anxiety and Related Disorders. Treatment usually involves cognitive behavioral strategies to help the child cope with anxiety.
All ranges of temperament have their uncomfortable, or even pathological, outer zones. Just as there are children whose rambunctious eagerness to participate makes trouble for them in school or signals the presence of other problems, there are children whose silence is a shout for help.
I’m struck by the parallels between the ways we discuss shyness and the ways we discuss impulsivity and hyperactivity. In both cases, there is concern about the risk of “pathologizing” children who are well within the range of normal and worry that we are too likely to medicate outliers. By this thinking, children who would once have been considered shy and quiet too often get antidepressants, just as children who would once have been considered lively and rambunctious too often get A.D.H.D. medications.
But the most important question is whether children are in distress. Dr. Merikangas’s study distinguished between the common trait of shyness and the psychiatric diagnosis of social phobia. Over all, about 5 percent of the adolescents in the study were severely restricted by social anxiety; they included some who described themselves as shy and some who did not. The authors questioned whether the debate about the “medicalization” of shyness might be obscuring the detection of the distinct signs of social phobia.
For parents who simply want to help a shy child cope with, for example, a brand new classroom full of brand new people, consider rehearsing, scripting encounters and interactions. “The best thing they can do is do a role play and behavioral rehearsal ahead of time,” said Steven Kurtz, a senior clinician at the Child Mind Institute in Manhattan. Parents should “plan on rewarding the bravery.”
But don’t take over. “The danger point is rescuing too soon, too often, too much, so the kids don’t develop coping mechanisms,” said Dr. Kurtz.
Cognitive behavioral therapy relies on “successive approximations,” in which children slowly close in on the behaviors they are hoping to achieve. In that spirit, a parent might arrange to meet another parent on the way to school, so a shy child can walk with another and bond. A teacher might look for the right partner to pair up with a shy child for cooperative activities in the classroom.

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And especially--focus in on this last paragraph:

“Probably the worst thing to do is to say, ‘Don’t be shy. Don’t be quiet,’ ” Dr. Merikangas told me. This is not about trying to change the child’s temperament. It’s about respecting and honoring temperament and variation, and helping children navigate the world with their own instruments.

Amen.

Monday, September 16, 2013

BRAIN TALK

Because persons like us, with or affected by Moebius Syndrome, are always interested in the brain.  Part of having Moebius has to do with the fact that you have facial paralysis due to the fact that the 6th and 7th craniofacial nerves, connecting to the brain, just don't work right.  So I always say--how can we use our brains better?  How can we make them more powerful?

Today, here's the latest--how can developing our brains help us with questions of self-control (such as, if you're on a diet, how do you turn down the big hot fudge sundae)???  Read on:

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Mmmm, a hot fudge sundae. The diet is supposed to start today, but surely it can wait until tomorrow -- or maybe the next day.
Many people know what's good for them and choose to do the exact opposite, especially when it comes to diet and exercise. Researchers are turning to the brain to find out what's behind this lack of self-control, a topic discussed in length at the American Association for the Advancement of Science meeting in Boston earlier this year.
In the future, there may be brain-based solutions to help you avoid that sundae; for now, researchers say, we can shape our environments to help us avoid temptation, and make firm commitments to change.
Value judgments and willpower
New York's big drink debate
Pinpointing complex behaviors in the brain isn't simple; we weren't born with the words "impulsivity" and "willpower" etched into particular places on our heads. Scientists are still in the early stages of figuring out how billions of cells called neurons generate particular outcomes, and which circuits do what. But some clues have emerged from recent experiments.
When people who are trying to lose weight are confronted with meal choices, it appears there are two major factors in their decision: taste and health, said Todd Hare, assistant professor of neuroeconomics at the University of Zurich.
Hare's research shows that dieters who successfully turn down fatty temptations such as ice cream put more emphasis on the healthiness of food and relatively less emphasis on the taste.
It is the opposite for dieters who can't say "no" to sweets, he said. They say they're trying to eat healthy, but "they seem unable to shift away from the more automatic, stronger representation of taste," Hare said.
By using functional magnetic resonance imaging, or fMRI, scientists can see how a brain region called the ventral medial prefrontal cortex becomes active in valuing options in predicaments like this.
The ventral medial prefrontal cortex also appears to get involved in certain monetary decisions -- for instance, when researchers present participants with the choice of accepting a large reward later or a smaller reward immediately. Hare's research on this is not yet published, but the phenomenon was described in a 2011 research review.
Scientists have also located a second important brain area for these kinds of decisions: the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex. There is more activity in this region when participants choose options that appear better for them in the long run -- the healthy food item or the larger monetary reward that will arrive later.
The interaction between these two brain regions -- the ventral medial prefrontal cortex and the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex -- is stronger for people who show greater self control with either money or food, Hare said.
"They're working together to shape the way you're going to make your choices."
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Scientists are also investigating brain areas associated with turning down temptations.
University of Cambridge neuroscientist Molly Crockett and her colleagues suggested in a study earlier this year that "precommitment" -- voluntarily restricting one's access to temptation -- is more effective at promoting self control than willpower.
In the experiment, men viewed erotic images that they rated according to personal preference. Then, in one task, they could decide in advance that they would not have the option to see the images they rated poorly. In exchange, they could see the higher-rated images after a greater time delay. This is called "precommitment."
In a different task, men were challenged to use willpower to actively resist viewing the lower-rated images while they waited for the higher-rated images. Precommitment appeared to be a better strategy on average.
In impulsive participants in particular, researchers saw more activation in the ventral striatum and ventromedial prefrontal cortex areas during precommitment. These relationships between brain activation patterns and impulsive tendencies suggest that people in general may have some self-awareness about their own self-control abilities.
Are self control problems, such as overeating and overspending, the result of poor willpower or impaired ability to precommit, or both? Further research on these issues could help the development of behavioral or pharmacological interventions, according to the study.
Can we alter brain function for the better?
Currently, we don't have drugs designed to target such brain impairments associated with lack of self control.
But, in theory, a drug of the future could stimulate key brain areas to help people with self-control problems diet or save money, according to David Laibson, professor of economics at Harvard University.
If that sounds too much like science fiction, consider that many drugs are already on the market to alter brain function for the better -- for example, methylphenidate (Ritalin) for attention deficit disorder and anti-depressants for depression.
Outside the pharmacy, there is a drug to combat exhaustion and enhance attention, used by millions of Americans every day: caffeine. Laibson argued that if these substances are widely accepted, why shouldn't there be options for people who want better control of their food decisions?
The practical realities for a self-control drug are complex, however. Hare cautioned that these brain areas would be hard to target with medicine because a lot of other brain areas would be hit at the same time. No drug could selectively increase activity in the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex alone, for example.
A different approach, which has not been tried, would be to use transcranial magnetic stimulation to temporarily enhance the activity of regions of the brain near the skull. This technique -- in which magnetic fields generate small electrical currents, activating cells in a specified part of the brain -- is being explored for depression patients who don't respond to medication.
A 2010 Nature Neuroscience study used transcranial magnetic stimulation to temporarily inhibit the dorsal lateral prefrontal cortex, and showed that this led to participants making more impatient decisions.
Theoretically, this technology could be applied in the opposite way -- to train relevant brain circuitry to come online during problematic food choices among dieters, so that eventually the person's brain would respond naturally in this way, Hare said.
"If there's enough success with this in conditions such as depression, then I could see that that would be the logical next step," Hare said.
Scientists may also be able to develop behavioral interventions based on brain research -- i.e. how to train and promote self-control. Psychologists, for example, may be able to derive behavioral therapies from the "brain circuit differences that we see in people with different kinds of self control problems," said Joshua Buckholtz, assistant professor of psychology at Harvard University.
Buckholtz has unpublished research suggesting that people with high BMIs and non-obese impulsive people have similar brain chemistry patterns.
Committing to change
To recap: We're bad at self control. Scientists are looking at the brain to figure out how self control breaks down at the neurological level. Such insights could directly lead to interventions in the form of pharmaceuticals or brain stimulation.
In the meantime, what can we do to help ourselves behave more in line with our good intentions, even in the face of temptations?
"The more we recognize the commonality of this problem, the more prepared we'll be to develop solutions to solve a problem, because the solutions end up being the same across all the different domains," Laibson said.
The basis of nonpharmaceutical solutions is the big C-word: commitment. To some extent, most of us are already entrenched in a system of commitments that keep us in line. It's called the workplace.
Journalists publish articles, cashiers scan groceries and teachers grade papers because of systems built into our society that commits them to perform certain tasks, with the threat of punishment -- or not getting paid -- looming over their heads, Laibson said. Managerial structures ensure that employees at every level do what they're supposed to be doing.
"We built this system that is actually well tuned to who we are psychologically," he said. "We're not relying completely on our willpower to do everything. We are letting the system take care of us."
When it comes to money, for instance, many companies offer savings plans that automatically place a fixed percentage of your paycheck into a 401(k) account, with strict penalties if you try to access that money before retirement. Once you sign up, you don't have to think about making the choice every week; it just happens in the background.
"We don't want people to tell us what to do so that we have no freedom, but we do need a little bit of help so that we actually get to work and have a productive day instead of rolling in at 11 a.m.," Laibson said.
Applying that method to food is a lot trickier. Your boss can make you go to a 9 a.m. meeting, but you don't have a Food Manager who prods you to avoid potato chips and count calories at every single meal. Even if your workplace's cafeteria has reasonably sized portions, including small desserts, no one will stop you from buying two or three cookies.
To encourage healthy habits in an already structured workplace, companies could instead institute standing desks and hold standing or even "walking meetings," in which people move around while they discuss business instead of sit in a conference room. These interventions should, however, be tested scientifically before being widely promoted, Laibson said.
Government intervention is another way that self control could be imposed, but a controversial one. The city of New York tried to limit sugary drinks sold to 16 ounces each last year, but an appeals court ruled in July that this was "arbitrary and capricious." In Laibson's view, such a policy needs scientific evidence that it has positive health outcomes before being broadly enacted.
But you don't necessarily need a boss or government official threatening to punish you for breaking rules you already want to follow for the sake of your health. You can set up a system in which you discipline yourself.
Through the Internet, you can wager your own money to commit yourself to your own diet and exercise aspirations. A website called StickK allows you to put your own money on the line in support of whatever goal you may have; if you don't fulfill it, you lose the money. As Yale economist Dean Karlan, co-founder of StickK, told CNN in 2008, "It's a contract to make slothfulness more expensive."
So, think how much money your health-conscious self would offer your sweet-tooth self to keep the ice cream in the freezer, or not buy it at all.
Change can start today.

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Friday, September 13, 2013

FRIDAY FOOTBALL PICKS!!!

It's that time again!  I was only 7-9-1 last week; let's see if I can do better.
First, let's do...

COLLEGE FOOTBALL
Here I'll just pick winners--the home team is in ALL CAPS:

Alabama at TEXAS A&M.  My pick:  CRIMSON TIDE.  Johnny Manziel will score some points and do his thing, for he's that good; but I see A&M's defense as real weakness, and 'Bama will roll up some serious points and contain the Aggies just enough.

UCLA at NEBRASKA.  My pick:  CORNHUSKERS.  Last year the Bruins rolled up major points and yards against the Big Red, but this year it's in Lincoln and I just think Nebraska will be more prepared, and will present UCLA with a tough environment.

NFL PICKS
Remember, here I'm picking against the point spread.  Again, home teams are in ALL CAPS.

ATLANTA 7 over St. Louis.  My pick:  RAMS.  Not to win, but to lose by less than 7, as the Falcons are the better team, but I suspect will be a bit mentally down after a tough loss to the Saints last week, and Jeff Fisher has the Rams improving.

BALTIMORE 6.5 over Cleveland.  My pick:  RAVENS.  Last week indicated to me that the Browns still don't have it together, and I think Joe Flacco and the Ravens will have pulled things together after last week.

Carolina 3 over BUFFALO.  My pick:  PANTHERS.  Cam Newton and that offense will show more oomph this week; E. J. Manuel still has a lot to learn.

CHICAGO 6 over Minnesota.  My pick:  BEARS.  6 is actually a lot of points in a tough divisional game like this, but what last week suggested to me is that, this year, Adrian Peterson just can't carry the Vikings by himself, and Christian Ponder just isn't progressing as a QB.

Denver 4.5 over NY GIANTS.  My pick:  BRONCOS.  It's the Manning Bowl again--lots of pressure; but I just saw a Giants team last week that seemed to have lots of holes--not the usual Giants, and I think Peyton and the Broncos will exploit all those weaknesses. 

Detroit 1 over ARIZONA.  My pick:  LIONS (holding my breath!)  I say that because as a Lions fan, we know that this team historically has long known how to squander prosperity; but you know what--I loved what Reggie Bush brought to the table in game 1, and I see that continuing.

GREEN BAY 7.5 over Washington.  My pick:  PACKERS.  Again, 7.5 is a lot of points to give.  But RGIII did not look comfortable last week at all, and a short week is not enough time to fix things; meanwhile, yes, the Packers lost, but still looked to me like a good team.

HOUSTON 9 over Tennessee.  My pick:  TEXANS.  Yes, the Titans won last week, but Jake Locker threw only for like 125 yards or thereabouts; that won't get it done on the road against a still-solid, good offensive team like the Texans.

INDIANAPOLIS 2.5 over Miami.  My pick:  COLTS.  They struggled at times vs the Raiders; but guess what--in the end, Andrew Luck got it done.  I just think he'll find a way again at home in week 2.

KANSAS CITY 3 over Dallas.  My pick:  CHIEFS.  Yes, the Cowboys looked better last week (but then so did the Chiefs); but here's the deal--in the Jason Garrett Era, the hardest thing for the Cowboys has been consistency...has been following up one good game with another one.  Have they really gotten there yet?  I'm not convinced yet, and until they show it, go with the history...the 'Boys will struggle after having a good game.

New Orleans 3.5 over TAMPA BAY.  My pick:  SAINTS.  I'm surprised the spread is so small here; I guess it's because the game is in Tampa...but the Bucs looked bad last week, they seem to have dissension, and the Saints looked very solid in week 1...NO all the way.

OAKLAND 5.5 over Jacksonville.  My pick:  RAIDERS.  You know what--Terrelle Pryor presents problems for defenses, and I think he's given the Raiders a spark.

PHILADELPHIA 7.5 over San Diego.  My pick:  EAGLES.  The Chargers appear to have regressed the last 2-3 years; they've consistently blown leads, don't seem to know how to win...and now they have to face this Chip Kelly offense, on the road across the country, after a short week...look for the Eagles to fly high again.

SEATTLE 3 over San Francisco.  My pick:  49ERS.  I think both teams are good; but I think the Niners may have the best, most complete team in the NFC, and I think they'll show it on a national stage.

CINCINNATI 7 over Pittsburgh.  My pick:  BENGALS.  The Steelers, with their injuries and lack of a running game, may not be any longer the Steeler team we've always known.

Thursday, September 12, 2013

MOEBIUS SYNDROME AND HAVING KIDS

I was talking to someone (I won't use the person's name) about this just today; and although I may have talked about this before, still it's an issue that comes up time and again.  So let's indeed muse about it again.  The issue is this:  say you're an adult with Moebius.  You're in a very serious relationship with someone else, or married.  You want to have children.  Question:  but won't your children have Moebius?

Here's my perspective, based on what I know about it.  Full disclosure:  obviously I have Moebius Syndrome.  So does my wife, Lisa.  We have produced two children.  Neither one of them has Moebius Syndrome at all.

Okay, so, that...and the fact that I know others with Moebius, who have also had children, and their experiences...tells me this:  will your children have Moebius?  Well, you certainly need not think that there's a guarantee that they will.  I even think it's fair to believe that it's likely that they will NOT have it!  Again, this is based on what I know.

Now, does that mean that it's guaranteed that your children won't have Moebius?  No.  We can't go that far.  Remember, Moebius affects everyone who has it a bit differently.  So, in every case--if you have Moebius and you're thinking of having kids, you should talk to your doctor.  You should talk to your ob-gyn.  You should get genetic counseling--my wife sought that out and it was a good thing to do.  You should get all the information you can.

But must you be afraid that your child will have Moebius?  I'm convinced the answer is no.  And I do not believe you should shy away from having children because of that fear.  You should just get all the information you can.  And of course, you should think of it this way, too:  suppose your child DID have Moebius?  Well, two things then:  first of all, those of us with Moebius know--a life with Moebius is still most definitely a life with living, and never forget that.  Second:  who then would be best prepared to teach your Moebius child about life, and to help him or her through it and make that life the best it could be?

Well--you, the parent with Moebius.  Because nobody knows more about it than you, right?
Live your life to the fullest.

"We have nothing to fear, but fear itself."--Franklin D. Roosevelt

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

NOT HAVING TO WONDER IF THEY ARE WONDERING

Huh?  That's a confusing title for a post.  But it comes from various discussions that me and some of my Moebius friends have been having on social media lately.  The question always comes up:  okay, so you have Moebius Syndrome.  But to whom should you talk about it, and when?  To your employer?  Your teacher?  Your friends?  To a possible significant other?  And it can be hard to talk about it--is it really a good idea?

But in reading what others have had to say about this issue, and in thinking about it myself, the concept I keep coming back to is this:  the question of "wondering."  And what I mean is this:  okay, so you have various relationships with people.  You have friends, maybe you have teachers, employers, acquaintances, etc.  So say you've never discussed Moebius with them.  Well, but...for most of us, that we have Moebius is not a secret.  Or, as others who know us but maybe don't know about Moebius would see it, it's not a secret that there's something "different" about us.  So what I'm getting at is this:  if you have Moebius but you've never talked about it with the others in your life, don't you wonder...if THEY are wondering...about you?  What do they think about you?  What do they think about the fact that you sound a little different and look a little different?  You know they notice it.  You know they probably do in fact wonder about it.  (I mean, if you were in their shoes, you would, too!)

SO!  The benefit of telling others about your Moebius Syndrome, then, is simple:  if you talk about it (and it doesn't have to be a long discussion), then you don't have to, yes, WONDER.  Because you don't have to, yes, "wonder" if your friend or teacher or employer is "wondering"...about you.  Because now they won't have to.  Now they'll _know_.  They'll know what you have, and they'll know that you're a person, just like they are...you just happen to look a little different.

And in the end, isn't that in fact very comforting???? :+)

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

HEALTHY TIPS OF THE DAY

Actually, 11 of them.  11 simple weight-loss tips.  Read on:

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Dawn Jackson Blatner, a registered dietitian and nutritionist for the Chicago Cubs, is trying to change the meaning of the phrase, "Treat yo'self."
Most people treat themselves by indulging in a gallon of ice cream or by lounging around the house, watching TV. Blatner wants "treat yourself" to mean exactly the opposite. Her definition is designed to give you more energy, help you lose weight and keep your body healthy.
"It's preplanning your grocery list. It's being in the grocery store and buying foods that nourish your body. It's eating mindfully," she told the audience at the Obesity Action Coalition's annual Your Weight Matters convention. "Those are really good things that when you do them, it's treating yourself right."
In other words, you deserve to feel good and look good, Blatner says. So putting in five or 10 minutes to plan your meals for the upcoming week or spending 30 minutes at the gym is the ultimate act of self-love.
"There's no bigger gesture in this world that says, 'You know what, Dawn? You matter.'"
Follow these 10 tips to "treat yourself" to a healthier, slimmer body:
1. Table. Plate. Chair.
Every time you put food in your mouth, you should have three things, Blatner says: a table, a plate and a chair.
These three items ensure you're not sneaking snacks from the refrigerator late at night or gulping down 1,000 calories in your car from a fast food joint. And having them probably means you're consuming more nutrients than a bag of potato chips would offer -- unless you're one of those weird people who puts potato chips on a plate.
"It's my answer to eating mindfully," Blatner says.
Eating mindfully, research shows, helps people pay closer attention to the enjoyment of eating and to feelings of fullness. Studies suggest people who eat mindfully consume fewer calories at meals, no matter how much is on their plate.
2. Willpower is a mental muscle. Exercise it.
Willpower is a limited resource, psychologist Sean Connolly of San Antonio says, but we all have it. The trick is in knowing how to use it efficiently.
"People list lack of willpower as the No. 1 reason holding them back from improving their lives in some way," says Connolly, who works regularly with bariatric patients. "Willpower is not a gene. It's a tool that we all have that we have to learn to use, develop and manage."
Like any muscle, your willpower gets tired. So you have to plan, Connolly says, and know what you will do in situations that offer a healthy choice and an unhealthy choice. You also have to be prepared for emergencies, such as at the end of a long work day, when your willpower is exhausted and the drive thru window beckons.
Willpower also needs to be replenished daily. The best way to do this? Get enough sleep.
3. Be realistic.
Let's be honest, most of us want to lose a lot of weight. And when we don't -- when we drop 5 or 10 and then hit a wall -- we get discouraged and jump back on the fried food wagon.
One of the biggest obstacles to losing weight is unrealistic expectations, says psychologist Gary Foster, director of the Center for Obesity Research and Education at Temple University.
"The less you weigh, the less you need to eat and the more you need to move (to lose weight)," Foster says. "And that's not fair."
It's nice to aim high, but successful losers drop an average of 8.4% of their body weight. If you weigh in at 200, that's about 16 pounds. And losing those 16 pounds improves your health dramatically.
In other words, hoping to weigh what you did in high school will derail your plan before it starts.
"Life changes, and that's not an apology or a cop out. It's a realistic assessment," Foster says. "What else in your life is the same at 45 as it was at 20?"
4. Find better friends.
It's known as the "socialization effect." Cigarette smokers hang out with other cigarette smokers. Drinkers hang out with other drinks. And overweight people hang out with other overweight people, says Dr. Robert Kushner of Chicago.
"What do you do if you're hanging out with a group of people who are overweight?" he asks. You pick a restaurant. You go out for burgers and a beer. "You're probably not talking about going rollerblading."
We tend to pick up the habits of those we hang out with the most. So find some friends with healthy habits, and you'll become healthier yourself.
5. Do a cart check.
You know the MyPlate diagram -- the one that shows how your plate should be split into fruits, grains, vegetables and proteins? Your cart should look the same, Blatner says. When you think you're finished shopping, do a quick eye check to make sure it's filled with about 25% protein, 25% whole grains and 50% produce.
"Choice is the enemy of weight loss," Blatner says. She recommends planning out two healthy breakfasts, two healthy lunches, two healthy snacks and two healthy dinners for the week. Buy the ingredients you need for each and then rotate them throughout the week.
This gives you enough choice that you won't get bored but not enough choice that you're overwhelmed and end up looking for the nearest vending machine.
6. Do not eat in response to that thing.
You're at the movies. It's your cousin's bachelorette party. Your son is at the top of his graduating class. It's a ball game -- and what's a ball game without a hot dog? If you want to lose weight, avoid eating in response to "that thing," Foster says.
Plan what you're going to eat at these special -- or not so special -- occasions so you don't have to rely on your willpower. And only eat when you're hungry. There will be more food at the next thing.
7. Tell yourself: "I have the right to be thin."
Self-sabotage is a real problem in weight loss, Connolly says. A lot of times his clients say they want something and then go out of their way to make sure it doesn't happen.
It's not a lack of desire or motivation. "Something holds us back," he says.
We have to learn to validate ourselves, Connolly says, because we'll never get everything we need from other people. Tell yourself daily that you deserve to be healthy. You deserve to look and feel good. Then believe it.
8. Set S.M.A.R.T. goals.
If you haven't heard this acronym before, memorize it now. Any goal you set should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely, says Eliza Kingsford, psychotherapist and director of clinical services for Wellspring. If it meets these qualities, you'll be much more likely to achieve it.
For instance, "I'm going to be more active" is a goal. "I will walk for 30 minutes every day for the next month" is a S.M.A.R.T. goal.
It's specific in that you know how much activity you're going to do. It's measurable -- did you walk today or not?
It's attainable and realistic; everyone can find 30 minutes in their day, and walking doesn't require a lot of equipment or special training. And it's timely because you'll be able to see at the end of the month if you hit your goal.
9. Stand up.
Most of us now spend eight hours a day sitting at our desks at work, and two to three hours sitting at home. That kind of sedentary lifestyle is nearly impossible to counteract, Dr. Holly Lofton of New York says, even if you hit the gym for two hours a day (and who does that?).
She suggests wearing a step counter that will keep you aware of the movement -- or lack of movement -- you're making throughout the day. Try standing up at your desk while on a conference call, or walking to a colleague's desk instead of e-mailing him. Take the stairs. Park farther away. Everything counts!
10. Life will never be stress-free. Learn to cope.
Scientists disagree about whether stress itself produces a physical change in your body that can lead to significant weight gain. But we all know the effect a stressful day can have on our willpower.
The problem, Kushner says, is that there never will be a long period in your life without stress. And if we cope with everyday stress by indulging in brownies and vodka, the weight will continue to pile on.
"Life happens. It's not so much stress that causes weight gain, it's the coping, the push back," he says.
The key is to learn positive coping skills. If work is stressing you out, take a 10-minute walk instead of hitting up the cookie tray in the breakroom. Take a yoga class at the end of a long week. Use deep breaths to get through a phone call with your mother.
And treat yourself to a stress-less day.

Monday, September 9, 2013

HOW TO SURVIVE--AND THRIVE...

...despite adversity.  I talk about that a lot on this blog.  As we all know, people with Moebius Syndrome face plenty of adversity, be it from the physical challenges we face, or the prejudices we encounter from some (but certainly not all) people.  No matter what setbacks you have to endure, though, you can thrive.  And a new book can show you how.  Here's more:

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Every so often an especially insightful book prompts me to reflect on or change my behavior, attitudes or both. Years ago, after reading “Type A Behavior and Your Heart” by two San Francisco cardiologists, Dr. Meyer Friedman and Dr. Ray H. Rosenman, I learned to reduce stress and hostility by cramming less into my days and allowing adequate time to accomplish whatever I had to do.
I just read another book, newly published, that could help many of us cope with life’s inevitable obstacles. It is “The Gift of Adversity,” by Dr. Norman E. Rosenthal, 63, the psychiatrist who first described seasonal affective disorder and how to treat it with light.
The book is a kind of memoir with a twist: a series of autobiographical stories with life-changing lessons gleaned from nearly six decades of challenging events he and others experienced. Instead of stumbling blocks, the events became opportunities to step in more positive and productive directions.
Each of the 52 short chapters is followed by a life lesson or guide that can help people reorient their approaches to life.
The popular aphorism, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” could define Dr. Rosenthal’s learned route to a well-adjusted life. Everyone knows the cliché, of course, and people often rise above adversity to great heights. But sometimes we need a push in the right direction.
The book’s titular message — that adversity can be a gift — is especially relevant now, as millions of Americans who have lost jobs struggle to reinvent themselves. After 20 productive years as a researcher at the National Institute of Mental Health, Dr. Rosenthal felt he was essentially forced out by new leadership.
“This kind of thing happens to many people in all fields,” Dr. Rosenthal wrote. “Sometimes you need to accept that it’s time to move on — and to do so.” And so he did, becoming an independent clinical researcher, private clinician and, perhaps most important of all, an author of science-based nonfiction written in an entertaining and accessible style.
In an interview, he offered this message to people in midlife who have lost jobs: “Accept the situation and view it as part of a national trend, not a reflection of your personal worth. Reach within yourself to see what else you can do, what you value, then cultivate it. There are lots of opportunities out there, skills you can upgrade, and new skills you can master.”
He cautioned against comparing oneself to others more fortunate, which can lead to depression. He suggested that older job seekers emphasize their advantages over the young: wisdom, judgment, interpersonal skills and experience, all of which can foster creative thinking and effective teamwork.
The moral of his departure from the institute: “Look within to gauge your worth rather than depending on institutions or the opinions of others, for institutions rise and fall and fashions come and go, but a good sense of your own value will see you through life’s ups and downs.”
It is a lesson I had to learn midcareer, when my confidence was nearly shattered. At the time I worked under an editor who disliked me or my work — or both. He repeatedly ripped my copy to shreds, leaving me in tears and wanting to quit.
But before I relinquished what to me was the best job in the world, I figured out a strategy that worked: writing articles edited by others. Soon after, the editor moved on, and I returned to writing what I and my readers enjoyed.
The point: often faith in oneself prevails over temporary obstacles.
True, sometimes we have only ourselves to blame for these obstacles. Yet mistakes, if dwelled upon, can easily erode a person’s ego. My late husband once told me he remembered every mistake he’d ever made, which may have contributed to his propensity for depression.
“Mistakes are our best teachers, so don’t waste them,” Dr. Rosenthal wrote. “Acknowledge them, learn from them, and become more competent because of them.”
One of my most serious personality flaws is a tendency to speak critically before thinking about the potential impact on others. Then I fret, knowing that I have unwittingly hurt or insulted people I care about.
In addition to trying harder to stop myself and think before I speak, I now apologize for my hurtful actions or ill-chosen words in a timely fashion and, as Dr. Rosenthal put it, “take responsibility for an injured relationship and mend it.”
Sensitivity to the feelings and needs of others, Dr. Rosenthal pointed out, involves “skills that are best learned early — notably, empathy, responsibility and kindness.” He urges parents to teach their children the value of fairness, reciprocity and generosity.
Dr. Rosenthal’s approach to life changed at the age of 24, when, in his native South Africa, he was stabbed and nearly killed in a random act of violence.
“I looked death in the face,” he said, “and when I survived and recovered, I never felt more alive. I savored every moment of every day.” His youthful brush with death, he said, “shaped my entire thinking about what’s important.”
It also shaped his attitude toward death. “Most of us dread the prospect of dying, including me,” he wrote in the new book. “But sometimes, when the fear arises, I say to myself, ‘It’s a test that nobody fails. So you’ll pass it too.’ Accepting death lets you turn your attention to how you can defer the date and make best use of the time you have.”

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PS--I'm only 7-8 so far in my NFL and college picks from last weekend.  There's 2 more games tonight; pray I can get over .500... :+)

Friday, September 6, 2013

HERE IT IS!! IT'S BACK!!! IT'S TIME FOR FRIDAY FOOTBALL PICKS!

NFL PICKS
Let's start off the season right!
The home team is in ALL CAPS.

New England 7 over BUFFALO.  My pick:  PATRIOTS.  Buffalo is starting a rookie QB; New England has issues, but they still have Tom Brady and the canny Bill Belichick.  New England just have way too much; they should win and cover the spread, easily.

PITTSBURGH 6.5 over Tennessee.  My pick:  STEELERS.  Mainly because I look for Big Ben and the Steelers to at least start out with a bounce-back over last year's late disappointment.  With Roethlisberger, the Steelers have a big edge at QB.

NEW ORLEANS 3 over Atlanta.  My pick:  SAINTS.  They're fired up and boosted by the return of Sean Payton.  And they always give the Falcons' fits in the Superdome (see last year, even).

Tampa Bay 2.5 over NY JETS.  My pick:  BUCCANEERS.  I don't think this is even a question.  The Jets are a mess.  Geno Smith is raw and unproven, at best, at QB; the Bucs have Josh Freeman who I expect to show improvement this year.

Kansas City 3 over JACKSONVILLE.  My pick:  CHIEFS.  Look for the Chiefs to improve with Andy Reid as their new coach, and Alex Smith as a solid QB.  Reid knows how to shape teams up.  Jacksonville still has a ways to go.

CHICAGO 3.5 over Cincinnati.  My pick:  BENGALS.  I just think the Bengals are better--Andy Dalton has steadily improved, they have stability in their front office and with their coaches thanks to Marvin Lewis, and they have playmakers.  The Bears meanwhile are implementing a new system with new coach Marc Trestman.  That takes time and leads to bumps in the road early.  This will be one of them.

Miami 1 over CLEVELAND.  My pick:  BROWNS.  They're at home; I have a sense the Browns are improving.  Brandon Weeden, many insiders say, is improving faster than is Ryan Tannehill.

Seattle 3 over CAROLINA.  My pick:  PANTHERS.  There's gonna be upsets in the NFL in week 1; the trick is in finding them.  I think this is one of them.  The Panthers won 6 of their last 9 last year; Cam Newton is dangerous and improving; yes, the Seahawks will be good--but they won't sneak up on anybody.  The Panthers to win in a close one here.

DETROIT 3 over Minnesota.   My pick:  LIONS.  As a Lions fan, it scares me to do this; anytime Lions fans expect much from their team, it seems to blow up in their face.  But--I don't think Christian Ponder is progressing much; and I look for the Lions to have a better offense, with Reggie Bush etc.

INDIANAPOLIS 7 over Oakland.  My pick:  COLTS.  Oakland looks to be in tough shape; starting Terrelle Pryor smacks of desperation and of simply finding a way to avoid the porous Raiders' offensive line problems.  Meanwhile the Colts look solid still.

ST. LOUIS 6 over Arizona.  My pick:  RAMS.  I think Arizona will improve as the season goes on; but Jeff Fisher is doing good things with Sam Bradford and the Rams.

SAN FRANCISCO 4.5 over Green Bay.  My pick:  49ERS.  I don't look for the Pack to get run over by Colin Kaepernick, like they did in the playoffs last year.  But the Niners are a solid team, and they're at home.  I just don't think the Pack can shut them down; and so they'll outscore Aaron Rodgers.

DALLAS 3 over NY Giants.  My pick:  COWBOYS.  Both teams are banged up; but the Giants seem the more injured party...and honestly, the Cowboys have yet to beat the Giants at home...and you just have to believe the Cowboys are due.

WASHINGTON 4.5 over Philadelphia.  My pick:  REDSKINS.  I look for Chip Kelly and the Eagless to score; but the Eagle D looks porous.  The Redskins and RG III will score more.

Houston 3.5 over SAN DIEGO.  My pick:  TEXANS.  Houston looks to me like a playoff team again.  San Diego?  I don't think their decline has ended.

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COLLEGE PICKS

South Carolina vs Georgia.  My pick:  BULLDOGS.  Georgia lost a tough one last week; South Carolina won.  But Georgia is a good team.  Look for them to rebound.

Notre Dame vs. Michigan.  My pick:  WOLVERINES.  It's a great rivalry.  Most of the time, the games are close, classic battles.  I look for Michigan to win this one in a close one; the ball bounced ND's way a lot last year; maybe this year it will bounce differently.

"Winning isn't everything; it's the only thing."--Vince Lombardi

Thursday, September 5, 2013

INSPIRATIONAL STORY OF THE DAY

And some brain talk to go along with it, too.  You've read about Diana Nyad and her amazing recent swimming accomplishment, right?  And the fact that she swam all that way even though she's 64 years old?  How did she do it?  Many people say she accomplished what she did, because it's a question sometimes of mind over matter; that it's what's in her brain that counted.  We with Moebius Syndrome could stand to be reminded of that, too.  Read on:

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Diana Nyad has beautifully muscled arms, shoulders and thighs. She had a team of experts that helped her make the swim from Cuba to Key West, giving her water to drink, nourishing food, protecting her from jellyfish and monitoring her heart rate.
But in the end, experts say, her success came down to one essential part of her body – her mind.
“I think it was her belief in herself that she could do this,” says Kathryn Olson, CEO of the Women’s Sports Foundation, a non-profit devoted to advancing the lives of girls and women through sports. Nyad is a former trustee.
“She had me convinced she could absolutely do this, no question,” added Olson, who has worked with Nyad on Foundation events. “That is what made her different. She worked through the pain. She had such a strong belief in herself and her ability that she was able to convince all those around her as well.”
Nyad, 64, swam 110 miles between Cuba and Florida, finishing Monday, the first person to do so without a shark cage.
Most amazing to many, she succeeded in middle age after failing several times. Her first try was in 1978, when she was just 28.
It took her 52 hours and 54 minutes of what appears to have been pure misery. For one thing, she threw up frequently, undoing much of the effort being made by her friend and handler Bonnie Stoll to keep her nourished and hydrated.
“Bonnie and my crew couldn’t find anything to eat or drink that I could keep down,” Nyad told TODAY. “I was vomiting constantly, almost throughout the whole 53 hours. You don’t have strength any more. I wasn’t out there just kind of swimming and daydreaming like usual. I was dealing with a crisis.”
It would take more than training and support to get through that, says Olson. “It was not just about the physical, but the mental,” she told NBC News. “I am sure there are faster swimmers out there and stronger swimmers out there.”
Diana Nyad on her historic swim from Cuba to Florida. Experts say mental focus played as big a role in Nyad's success as physical preparation.
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Diana Nyad on her historic swim from Cuba to Florida. Experts say mental focus played as big a role in Nyad's success as physical preparation.
But Nyad had her heart set on finishing this swim – something she’d wanted to complete almost her whole adult life, even after taking a 30-year break from swimming. “There was a higher calling about this,” Olson says. “That desire allowed her to transcend the pain.”
Nyad says that as a very young girl and woman, competitive swimming was a way to escape the knowledge that one of her coaches was sexually abusing her. "I was in shock….humiliated confused and I kept it to myself,” Nyad says in a documentary about her life.
“Swimming was the only place I felt safe,” she adds. “It was an emotional safety. I could go into my head and just trip out on the laps and be away from the anxiety and the worry about when am I going to get attacked next.”
In her 20s, she said, swimming was an outlet for her anger. “Now that I am back in it, I feel joy,” Nyad says in the documentary.
Trent Petrie of the University of North Texas Center for Sport Psychology and Performance Excellence says Nyad’s achievement like mostly about proving to herself that she could do it.
“People don’t do things like that for any kind of external glory,” he said in a telephone interview. “They do it because it is important to them.”
Nyad trained for years, swimming for days at a time, as well as lifting weights. And her previous attempts kept her in the sea for as long as two days straight. She says she performs mental tricks to keep herself going, counting her strokes in English, German, Spanish and French and singing songs to herself. “There's a song list in my brain of 85 songs,” she told a news conference on Tuesday. “Neil Young is my favorite.”
And despite the vomiting, advanced nutrition has to have played a role in her success, says Russell Pate, exercise physiologist at the University of South Carolina’s Arnold School of Public Health and a past president of the American College of Sports Medicine.
“We can only accomplish physically what our bodies will support,” Pate said in a telephone interview.
“She was in the water and very active for a long time without a break or at least without extended breaks. That woman expended a lot of energy.”
The body pulls glucose from the liver and can also pull some energy from fat stores, but fat can’t pump out calories at anywhere near the speed the body would need while swimming in the ocean.
“We can store energy in our muscles, we can store energy in our liver, but not nearly enough to support that duration of effort,” Pate said. “I would like to see what she was consuming and how frequently she was consuming it.”
Nyad says her team of high-tech experts, from an expert on jellyfish to doctors and navigators who kept her on course, were key to her success. “The mental concentration of 53 hours of nonstop swimming is something to behold and respect. The physical duress is something to behold as well but never, ever, ever, could I do this without this team here,” she told a news conference.

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Wednesday, September 4, 2013

EVERY MINUTE COUNTS

I find that it's always good to get this kind of reminder; I mean, for our families' sake, we need to try to be healthy and live long lives, right?  And how do we do that?  Try to stay in shape...and here's one of the many ways how:

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A new study suggests something encouraging for busy people: Every minute of movement counts toward the 150 minutes of moderate-intensity physical activity we’re all supposed to be getting each week. University of Utah researchers found that each minute spent engaging in some kind of moderate to vigorous physical activity was associated with lower BMI and lower weight.
OK, that seems kind of obvious. But according to the current physical activity national guidelines, "aerobic activity should be performed in episodes of at least 10 minutes," and the everyday stuff, like walking the dog or climbing a flight of stairs, "aren’t long enough to count toward meeting the Guidelines." This new paper, published today in the American Journal of Health Promotion, suggests that reaching those two and a half hours minute by minute is just fine.
“The idea here is, you can do a minute at a time and that’s not a problem,” says Jessie Fan, lead author of the new paper and a family and consumer studies professor at the University of Utah.
For the women studied, each minute spent in higher-intensity, moderate to vigorous activity was associated with a .07 drop in body mass index, a measure of fat based on height and weight. For a 5'4" woman, that means a drop in weight of nearly half a pound. The effect in the guys was a little less substantial: a minute of exercise was associated with a .04 drop in BMI, translating to a .27-pound drop in weight for a 5'8" guy. That doesn’t sound like much, and it isn’t on its own – but that’s just one minute, points out Miriam Nelson, a nutrition science professor at Tufts University who was on the committee that put together the 2008 Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans. Multiply that by 10, or 30, or 150, and you’ve got some real results – all achieved by teeny tiny bouts of high-intensity activity.
"High intensity," Fan says, essentially means moving with a little pep, enough to get your heart rate going: it's not sprinting or racewalking, for example, but it's not ambling down the sidewalk, either.
“I think it’s easier for people to process that message,” Fan says. “Otherwise, if they don’t have a block of time they might be discouraged, and they don’t do anything.”
Fan and colleagues gathered their data using the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, a research program that uses interviews and physical exams to track the health of a diverse selection of American adults and children. For this study, researchers gathered the BMI and weight of 4,511 adults ages 18 to 64, and compared that to their physical activity level, which was tracked by an accelerometer, a device that measures movement.
The results, experts say, lend some numerical evidence to the idea that “every minute counts.”
“Time is precious,” says Michael Mantell, Ph.D., a behavioral science expert with the American Council on Exercise. He says the “all or nothing” approach – as in, “If I can’t work out for an hour at the gym, why bother at all?” – is an excuse that too often keeps people from doing any sort of physical activity. “This study identifies why that belief is inaccurate.”
Mantell has, oh, about a thousand ideas to put this idea into practice: You could energetically clean the house while listening to peppy music, or go outside to wash and wax your car. In the kitchen, you could chop veggies, wash dishes or stir batter by hand instead of with an electric mixer. On your way to work or while doing errands, get off the bus or subway a stop earlier than normal, or park a little farther away from the store. At home, play with your kids or grandkids, push the baby in the stroller, or walk the dog.
“The major message," Mantell says, "is to take a minute for yourself."

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