Because hey, it is, after all, a virtue; and really all of us in the Moebius community need it. Think about it: all of us parents need it, in order to deal fairly with our children. Parents and other family members of Moebius children need it--they need to have patience to understand their child's struggles, which are different from their own. Persons with Moebius Syndrome need it--to deal with the stares, the strange looks, the obstacles that life has thrown at us. So read on:
"Saint Augustine is thought to have claimed that patience is the companion of wisdom. Increase your store of both virtues by following this advice from a truck driver, a world traveler and others who know a thing or two about serenity-threatening situations.
Stop imagining the ideal
I often grow impatient when I want to be in control of a situation. To avoid getting antsy when I am writing and can't find specific words for my thoughts, I try to practice self-compassion. I tell myself that I'm not going to quit even if I become frustrated. I'll say out loud, "You're not perfect, but that's OK. Writing can be a messy process, and it's not ideal, but you can handle it."
I often grow impatient when I want to be in control of a situation. To avoid getting antsy when I am writing and can't find specific words for my thoughts, I try to practice self-compassion. I tell myself that I'm not going to quit even if I become frustrated. I'll say out loud, "You're not perfect, but that's OK. Writing can be a messy process, and it's not ideal, but you can handle it."
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Talking to yourself may
feel awkward and goofy, but it quells that feeling of impatience. And it
certainly beats foraging for carbs, which I'm also apt to do when I'm
agitated and have writer's block. -- Brené Brown
Brown is a research
professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work
and the author of the best-selling book "Daring Greatly." She has given one of the top 10 most-viewed talks on TED.com.
Experience different cultures
When you travel the world, you find out that many cultures aren't as punctual and perfectionistic as ours, and encountering those perspectives can mellow you. To work on your patience closer to home, try visiting an area populated by people of a different culture (such as a city's Chinatown) or take part in a festival held by an immigrant community.
When you travel the world, you find out that many cultures aren't as punctual and perfectionistic as ours, and encountering those perspectives can mellow you. To work on your patience closer to home, try visiting an area populated by people of a different culture (such as a city's Chinatown) or take part in a festival held by an immigrant community.
I recently visited a
Vietnamese farmers' market in New Orleans. I was annoyed that it was
open only between 6 a.m. and 8 a.m. and I wanted to know why. The
answer? I learned that often in cultures dependent on fishing, much of
the work is done before daybreak. It was good to remind myself that
simply because people do something differently doesn't mean that they're
wrong. -- Seth Kugel
Kugel writes the Frugal Traveler column for The New York Times. He lives in New York City and São Paulo, Brazil..
Find a distraction
Being out on the road for weeks on end can certainly test your patience. My wife and I -- we drive as a team -- have to deal with other drivers and the annoyances of traffic jams, and it's natural to be anxious in these moments. We overcome that feeling by giving each other something else to think about.
Being out on the road for weeks on end can certainly test your patience. My wife and I -- we drive as a team -- have to deal with other drivers and the annoyances of traffic jams, and it's natural to be anxious in these moments. We overcome that feeling by giving each other something else to think about.
For example, my wife
tells jokes and catches me up on the latest Facebook posts from friends.
Or I'll talk to my dogs (they also travel with us), since they provide
emotional support without offering any opinions. Those quick moments of
distraction recharge me, and I can again focus on the road without being
irritated. -- Wade Briggs
Briggs, based in
Boise, Idaho, is a commercial truck driver for Mayflower, a nationwide
full-service moving company. He has been driving a truck for 18 years.
Chew your food slowly
People who consume food more slowly -- and ignore those "I'm hungry" urges -- eat less overall than those who devour their meals. Research has found that impatient people are more likely to be overweight, possibly because of their inability to delay gratification at the dinner table.
People who consume food more slowly -- and ignore those "I'm hungry" urges -- eat less overall than those who devour their meals. Research has found that impatient people are more likely to be overweight, possibly because of their inability to delay gratification at the dinner table.
This practice can help
you in other areas of life as well: By eating slowly, you can train
yourself to be less impulsive and more patient in general. -- Charles Courtemanche
Courtemanche is an
assistant professor of economics at Georgia State University in Atlanta.
He has studied the relationship between obesity and patience.
Laugh at yourself
I'm a newspaper columnist and my husband is a politician, so both of us must be willing to converse with strangers when we're eating out or shopping for groceries. In the rare moments when people are obnoxious (like the time a woman told me that I needed to get Botox), I can get impatient. But instead of being rude to the person, I formulate an internal joke, usually at my own expense.
I'm a newspaper columnist and my husband is a politician, so both of us must be willing to converse with strangers when we're eating out or shopping for groceries. In the rare moments when people are obnoxious (like the time a woman told me that I needed to get Botox), I can get impatient. But instead of being rude to the person, I formulate an internal joke, usually at my own expense.
Knowing that I can laugh with a friend later on about, say, my deep wrinkles, calms any irritation. -- Connie Schultz
"Hard work spotlights the character of people: some turn up their sleeves, some turn up their noses, and some don't turn up at all."--Sam Ewing, former pro baseball player
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