BULLYING UPDATE

We talk about bullying sometimes here--but not in a defensive way.  Not because everybody with Moebius Syndrome gets bullied all the time, or ever did; not because for us adults, bullying that was done to us when we were younger is something that we can never get past, or that it has paralyzed us; no, not for those reasons.  Instead, we talk about bullying here because it is a fact of life.  It has happened.  It does happen.  It can scar a person. 

And I think too often our society sort of...well...took it for granted.  People sometimes suggested that this kind of thing--often softened by just referring to it as "teasing"--was sort of inevitable; it was a rite of passage; it was just part of life; people who did it couldn't help it, they were just young; people have to be able to "take it"; just ignore it and it will go away; etc.  But it's that kind of thinking that can eventually lead to Jonathan Martin/Richie Incognito scenarios.  And furthermore, new research continuously shows--bullying is not good for its recipients' health.  Read on about the latest bullying update:

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Kids who are victims of bullying have worse mental and physical health, more symptoms of depression and lower self-worth — and the effect seems to get worse as time goes on, according to new research.

Previous research has shown that bullying can lead to health problems, and the study in Monday's Pediatrics demonstrated that the effects of bullying can actually snowball over time.

The researchers followed 4,297 children in Los Angeles, Birmingham, and Houston at three points: fifth, seventh, and 10th grades. The kids were asked about bullying and also completed questionnaires designed to look for symptoms of depression, low self-esteem and poor physical health.

Those who were being bullied had high levels of depressive symptoms, low self-worth and more problems with basic physical activity. And the longer the bullying went on, the worse the problem was. For example, 10th graders who were being bullied reported problems, but the worst problems were reported by kids who experienced bullying in fifth and seventh grades, too. Almost half of these continuously bullied kids had poor psychological health — seven times more than kids who had never been bullied.

"We're seeing that the effects of bullying get worse over time," said Dr. Laura Bogart, a social psychologist in the Division of General Pediatrics at Boston Children's Hospital and lead author on the study. "This gives more evidence that it's important to intervene early."

So what should parents do to protect their kids? Talk to them and know the signs of bullying, suggests Dr. Bogart. Unexplained cuts and bruises or signs of troubled mental health — unexplained anxiety, or a child who suddenly doesn't want to go to school — are all red flags.

Simple questions for the child like "how was your day at school?" can help assess if a child is having issues.

"Hopefully [parents and other adults] can step in and stop some of these bad effects of bullying before they happen," she said.

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