Tuesday, September 22, 2015

LIVING WELL DEPT: HOW TO FIND THE TIME TO...?

Don't we all sometimes feel overworked, over-scheduled, too busy...we'd really love to do X, Y, or Z, but we can't find the time?  I think lots of us at times feel that way.  So what kinds of things can we do?  But today I found this:  the story below is about a busy lawyer who really wanted to find the time to run...but couldn't seem to do so.  So he got some help.  See what he did--and maybe some of the ideas he used can work for you, too.  Read on:

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The 21 Day Timehacker Project matches readers with coaches who help them find time for their most important goals.

DAY ONE: Tim Wiseman, 31, a single lawyer in Lexington, Kentucky, used to love to run. He ran to stay in shape, to clear his head and have fun and to connect with friends – traveling to Chicago to run a marathon, to Virginia Beach for a half-marathon and other places. Running also made him feel more balanced, like he had room in his life for something other than work
But once he started working a few years ago for a law firm, he stopped. He worried he didn’t have the time to run, and that what time he did have should be devoted to work. Then inertia set in.
“As an attorney, time is how I am measured, specifically the time I bill, which is not necessarily the same as time worked,” he said. “So there is pressure to use the hours for work. Honorable mention goes to my iPhone. It is a time drain.”
Wiseman wanted to find time to run again.

THE TIME HACKS: Wiseman worked with Nicole Coomber, a management professor at the University of Maryland who also runs Managing Motherhood, a media and consulting firm designed to help parents “manage the imperfection” and chaos better. She suggested four Timehacks:
1. DEFINE WHAT’S ESSENTIAL: Coomber had Wiseman work on an exercise that Warren Buffet encourages: list 25 things you’d like to accomplish in your life. And from that list, pick five that are essential. From there, figure out how to channel your time and energy into achieving your top priorities.
“Tim has, in the past, accomplished some great things like running a marathon. His job has become more demanding and takes up more of his time, and he feels guilty for not doing some of the things he used to find time for quite easily, like running, recreational reading, and having fun,” Coomber said. “As we become more busy and essential at work, it’s hard to determine what else in our life should take priority.”

Becoming clear on what’s essential helps alleviate the guilt that can arise when it comes to doing something enjoyable outside work.
2. SET A REASONABLE SCHEDULE: Coomber urged Wiseman to think differently about work – that he really couldn’t work around the clock without seeing diminishing returns at work and in life. She asked him to start tracking how much energy, emotionally, physically and mentally, went into the tasks he assigned himself, and start giving himself more reasonable deadlines.
3. CREATE NEW HABITS: Decision fatigue and information overload can cloud our choices. “Deciding to exercise becomes harder unless we can make it a habit,” Coomber said. “Figuring out the key to how you work and how you can make things habits for yourself, what motivates you, is truly key.
4. FIND THE MOTIVATOR: “I found that with Tim, motivation would be better when he figured out what would get him in his running shoes. For him, the competition was key to getting him focused!” Coomber said.
She suggested making a bet with a friend about running in an upcoming race. The competition would serve as motivation, as well as keep serve to keep him accountable to his goal.
DAY 21: By the time I caught up with Wiseman, he’d made running an automatic habit by following a half-marathon training plan and running five or six times a week, usually in the evenings after work. “It’s been a good way to unwind after the day,” he said.
He’d signed up to run the Urban Bourbon Half Marathon in Louisville. And, to keep his motivation high, he’d made a $200 bet with a friend that he would beat his best half-marathon time of 1 hour and 55 minutes. “Another friend thinks I won’t do it and has bet another $100,” Wiseman said. “So I want to double down on my training to show I can.”
Either way, he said, he can’t lose. “It’s been good to get back into running and just try,” Wiseman said “It’ll be a small price to pay if I don’t make it by a few seconds.”
Wiseman said figuring out his top, essential, priorities helped him see that running really is important to him, to his sense of feeling balanced, and is worth his time. That eased the feelings of guilt for making the time to do it. “I have tried to be better about not feeling “guilt” or whatever about taking time to do what I feel is important rather than what someone else may think,” he said.
He’s been working to set a more realistic schedule: “No more endless To Do lists that only serve to become sources of guilt,” he said.
“I’m low on the totem pole at the low firm, so I don’t have total control over my work schedule. But at least, I’m learning not to overpromise,” he said. “That’s a problem every junior attorney has: you overpromise and end up under delivering because there just aren’t enough hours in the day.
“I’m recognizing it’s OK to be reasonable, because you want to do your best,” he added. “It’s all about finding that middle ground.”
Since he’s been running, Wiseman said he’s been sleeper better, eating better, feeling better, and has a better attitude. And he thinks he’s working better, too. “At least I hope so,” he said. “We’ll see when I have my evaluation.”

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